This weekend (our weekend is Monday and sometimes Tuesday) Chris and I went home to get some furniture for the apartment we're moving in to next month. As we approached Sandusky, and after I spent some time looking out the window at Lake Erie with binoculars I really started to lament the fact that we most likely can't get married at Marblehead (a lighthouse and beachy-type area on Lake Erie). It's so pretty and I feel like it would be a lot more acceptable to have some type of pot-luck, deli meat sandwiches and/or cake and hors d'oeuvres. When you're inside it seems like a lot more is expected of you. I mean, people are gonna have to DEAL anyway with the fact that we're poor but when you're outside poor is less noticeable.
I have already talked about the cons to getting married outside (we'd have to wait longer, prices go up as the temperature goes up, you can never trust the weather, etc) but MAN do I wish we could just do it. If only I could afford the back-up tent in case it rained.
I recently learned of this handy little machine called a Gocco. Basically you can make all sorts of homemade paper crafts (and other prints but those are of no use to me right now) and they can look amazing. I found these invitations via OffBeat Bride. Aren't they AMAZING?? I mean, granted, you'd still have to buy paper, a Gocco and postage (let alone have someone make a cool design) but I really like the idea of MAKING as much as possible. Mainly because apparently I like to give myself unnecessary stress.
What I definitely know for sure is that I want to go to Disney World more than anything else. How selfish am I? Extremely. I don't want to provide people with FOOD, I want to visit a fake castle, scream when I see a girl under 5'1" dressed in a mouse suit and buy an absurd amount of souvenirs that I will never use (did I really need that Cinderella glass slipper with my birth stone in it? What ever happened to that plush Goofy refrigerator magnet, anyway?) I probably mention Disney World once a day, lately. I've only been there once, 6 years ago (in a week and a half)... but I'm sorry, Disney has always been there for me. Disney taught me how to sing, for Pete's sake! They, along with Jodi Benson, gave me my livelihood. They have entertained me from childhood until now and I still cry while watching Monsters Inc and Finding Nemo because they are just SO WELL WRITTEN. I love Disney and I can't imagine having a honeymoon anywhere else.
Ok, well, except Hawaii, but that's even more expensive. And even if we DID have the money to go to Hawaii I think I would regret not going to Disney World. GOD! I want to go so bad!! The feeling is crazy, yet sincere.
On the plus side to all my complaining, I have a job lined up at the end of our tour contract in the box office of the theatre where I will be making more money and PRESUMABLY we'll be able to start saving. This is, of course, if no medical expenses pop up (like me having to have the tonsils that have been swollen for a week removed or anything else) and no other random expenses. We shall see. You always think, "Woo hoo! A higher paying job! I'll finally be able to [fill in the blank]!" And then as soon as you think you can afford internet or cable you have to spend your entire paycheck on a fractured collar bone or something.
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Saturday, May 24, 2008
Sunday, May 11, 2008
preliminary "plans" part 1
(read on to find out why these are hardly plans)
Sometimes people have a short engagement and a small party, sometimes a short engagement and a big party, sometimes a long engagement and a big party.... but rarely do people have a long engagement and a small party. I'm afraid it's going to feel so anti-climactic.
The thing is, Chris hopefully will be booked until December 2009. If people continue to like him and want to hire him as long as he wants he will only have two week-long breaks (at different times) between now and then (one this December and one next April). So, it's hard to have an exact date yet... two tentative ones I've thought about (while entering contests to win things) are December 14, 2009 and January 11, 2010. To me the January date seems better because Christmas will be over and everyone knows everything is more expensive at Christmas. January has the least amount of weddings for the year which would knock prices down AND we're going to get married on a Monday which will be better still.
I hate that, though. I really want to get married outside and that's pretty much impossible for Ohio in winter. I just feel like outside weddings make more sense... but even if we got married in April (right before prime wedding season) you can never trust Ohio weather. It could be 80 degrees or 20 degrees in April.
So, indoor winter wedding it is. For now. I mean, we can't plan anything this far in advance. If I had to chose RIGHT NOW I would get married in this butterfly dress that I saw and loved on
"American Idol." But I don't know if I will still want to do that in 18-19 months! I might think that's a horrible idea then. Plus, this dress is $400. That's.... a lot. For me.
And there, perhaps, is the good thing to come out of our long engagement. We have absolutely no disposable money. My parents have no money and although my sister and Chris's parents have all offered to help it's not like they're rolling in dough. We HAVE to save some money in this period of time otherwise there will be NOTHING. I did some preliminary math and figured that if we could save $250 for 17 months we could make $4000, which could cover a small wedding and a honeymoon to Disney World. Unfortunately, we'd have to pay for things BEFORE the wedding and there is no way on earth we'd be able to save $250 a month working as ACTORS. So, I have no idea what is going to happen and how we are going to make this work. But oh.... we're gonna get married. I have no idea how, but we MUST.
Another crazy problem is the fact that BOTH of our mother's have baked wedding cakes professionally. A long time ago, before we were engaged (the date of our engagement is the new zero to me... so this would be, like, 8 months B.E.), we were talking about how it would be hard to get married because we're both so poor. I said, "Well... at least the cake is covered. My mom can do that."
"MY mom can do that too."
"Oh yeah. But... My mom would really WANT to do it!! She'd be really upset if she couldn't!!"
"So would my mom."
It was then that I decided that if we got married, there would have to be two cakes and maybe nothing else except coffee. We're still toying with the idea of having hors d'oeuvres (frozen chicken fingers that someone microwaved? crackers and cheese?) but I don't know. It might make more sense only having cake.
At the end of this post, here's the list:
Sometimes people have a short engagement and a small party, sometimes a short engagement and a big party, sometimes a long engagement and a big party.... but rarely do people have a long engagement and a small party. I'm afraid it's going to feel so anti-climactic.
The thing is, Chris hopefully will be booked until December 2009. If people continue to like him and want to hire him as long as he wants he will only have two week-long breaks (at different times) between now and then (one this December and one next April). So, it's hard to have an exact date yet... two tentative ones I've thought about (while entering contests to win things) are December 14, 2009 and January 11, 2010. To me the January date seems better because Christmas will be over and everyone knows everything is more expensive at Christmas. January has the least amount of weddings for the year which would knock prices down AND we're going to get married on a Monday which will be better still.
I hate that, though. I really want to get married outside and that's pretty much impossible for Ohio in winter. I just feel like outside weddings make more sense... but even if we got married in April (right before prime wedding season) you can never trust Ohio weather. It could be 80 degrees or 20 degrees in April.
So, indoor winter wedding it is. For now. I mean, we can't plan anything this far in advance. If I had to chose RIGHT NOW I would get married in this butterfly dress that I saw and loved on
"American Idol." But I don't know if I will still want to do that in 18-19 months! I might think that's a horrible idea then. Plus, this dress is $400. That's.... a lot. For me.And there, perhaps, is the good thing to come out of our long engagement. We have absolutely no disposable money. My parents have no money and although my sister and Chris's parents have all offered to help it's not like they're rolling in dough. We HAVE to save some money in this period of time otherwise there will be NOTHING. I did some preliminary math and figured that if we could save $250 for 17 months we could make $4000, which could cover a small wedding and a honeymoon to Disney World. Unfortunately, we'd have to pay for things BEFORE the wedding and there is no way on earth we'd be able to save $250 a month working as ACTORS. So, I have no idea what is going to happen and how we are going to make this work. But oh.... we're gonna get married. I have no idea how, but we MUST.
Another crazy problem is the fact that BOTH of our mother's have baked wedding cakes professionally. A long time ago, before we were engaged (the date of our engagement is the new zero to me... so this would be, like, 8 months B.E.), we were talking about how it would be hard to get married because we're both so poor. I said, "Well... at least the cake is covered. My mom can do that."
"MY mom can do that too."
"Oh yeah. But... My mom would really WANT to do it!! She'd be really upset if she couldn't!!"
"So would my mom."
It was then that I decided that if we got married, there would have to be two cakes and maybe nothing else except coffee. We're still toying with the idea of having hors d'oeuvres (frozen chicken fingers that someone microwaved? crackers and cheese?) but I don't know. It might make more sense only having cake.
At the end of this post, here's the list:
- Indoor, winter wedding in Ohio
- December 2009 or January 2010
- Two wedding cakes
- Possible Tyson chicken fingers and miniature meatballs with toothpicks in them
Thursday, May 8, 2008
everyone loves love
I decided it would be a great idea to have ANOTHER blog. Over the years I have gone through many blogging adventures. As I consider myself one of the "Founding Mothers of the Blog" my first post was circa March 1998. I would update everyone on what exciting events happened during my 9th-grade earth science class or what field trips I did or did not go on. As I got older and more depressed about my life I would STILL update my blog with the events of the day, which boyfriend sucked now, where I ate dinner and other stupid information that would have been useful to stalkers. I had a blog about running down my street and the 2004 presidental election , 3 blogs with the same posts c&p'd and even a secret blog that had even MORE depressing details about being depressed.
But this is not a blog about being depressed. This is a blog...
ABOUT THE LOVE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN. A SPECIAL KIND OF LOVE (but no more special than the love between a woman and a woman or a man and a man).
This is a blog about our long engagement and our attempt to have a wedding of ANY kind and a honeymoon at Disney World.
It will probably still be depressing.
But this is not a blog about being depressed. This is a blog...
ABOUT THE LOVE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN. A SPECIAL KIND OF LOVE (but no more special than the love between a woman and a woman or a man and a man).
This is a blog about our long engagement and our attempt to have a wedding of ANY kind and a honeymoon at Disney World.
It will probably still be depressing.
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